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Sabotage Your Diet, Sabotage Yourself?

Today, I want to talk about self sabotage yourself when it comes to dieting. Okay, first off, I’m going to be very, very upfront with any of this information.

First off, I’m going to bash on myself, okay? I’d be a freaking hypocrite if, you know, I wasn’t saying this from experience, from myself personally but then also from what I’ve learned with clients over the years and just understanding people in general.

So, I would be a huge hypocrite if I said I never did any of this stuff. I just want to be clear that I go through my own crap just as much as anyone else and I am human.

I am human. I am not perfect and I just want to preface that a little bit because some people think that I’m perfect, some people think that I don’t mess up, some people think I’m awesome and amazing which I am a nobody. I’m not any of those things. So I want to be upfront and clear about that.

Back to self-sabotaging yourself.

Why Do We Self Sabotage?

Why do we do it? Why do we go through this pity party of bullshit that, where we can’t figure out why we can’t get passed this rut?

I go through this myself with certain things. I’ve gone through many different things but the one thing that I’m going to be talking about today is something that’s different. It’s not the typical self-sabotaging of maybe messing up on your diet just because you’re craving something or you’re hungry.

This is a little bit different. This is something that you self sabotage yourself because you’re scared of something. You’re scared of something deep within.

It’s not because you’re craving anything. It’s something deeper than that.

Examples of that happening or examples of that are you know maybe you’re scared of being successful. That’s one thing that I go through myself personally was some stuff that I’m going through. I’m not going to get into detail, but scared of being successful with certain things.

Sometimes you self-sabotage yourself in certain ways so that way it’s kind of you go in your comfort zone to be able to hold yourself back. It sounds weird. But why do we do that?

I have no idea.

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Are You Too Comfortable?

We just do it because it just seems comfortable because that’s what we do best at is trying to get in our comfort zone or staying comfortable. Our body does not like to be out of our comfort zone. We like to stay comfortable with our body, and we mess up or people think that they need a reward of something.

They need some kind of reward system which there are constructive rewards to things but just because you did good all week doesn’t mean you deserve a meal or a cheat day or whatever it may be, an excuse for you to overeat. That’s not the case. That’s not what you should be doing.

Don’t give yourself rewards like that just because you did good. It’s really a self-sabotaging type of method because you think you deserve something and in the end you end up messing up your progress anyway.

Regarding why we mess up our progress because we’re scared of being successful.

My Own Personal Self-Sabotage

For example, myself, I’ll get into a little bit of detail here. I am scared to get back on stage simply because, you know I’ve been successful in the past with competing. But I’m also scared of, you know, competing in the future because I don’t want my business to go down.

I don’t want my business to go down. I feel like that my business is going to go down if I compete because I’m going to be putting myself first with a lot of things and putting others not first I guess you could say where I kind of lose focus.

More importantly, I get really tired. I get really tired during the prepping process and I just don’t want to do anything and so I become lazy, lazy, constructively lazy I guess you could say. I work hard with the dieting and the workouts. I’m on point with everything but everything outside of that, I just don’t care.

Not entirely but to an extent. I get to a point where I just don’t give a shit.

Those who have prepped probably understand, but that’s one thing I’m scared of is you know, going, prepping and you know, being successful with that. Not that I’d win or anything but just being successful in terms of getting my physique to another level like I used to in the past.

Also, with business, there’s some things that I am scared of being successful with because of the attention that it brings myself. I don’t like having all this attention with certain things. I’m not, I don’t have a huge fan base. I don’t have a huge following. That’s not what I mean.

It’s more of a there’s certain things that brings attention to me that I just don’t like. I just don’t like having attention. I’m more of like a show it, not oh, look at me, look at me. I just do it because I know it needs to be done and I do it for the greater good of the purpose that I believe in and that’s all that matters to me.

I don’t care about the fame, I don’t care about the fortune. I don’t give a shit about any of that stuff. I care about more about just putting out there whatever it is. Those are things that a lot of people tend to self-sabotage themselves. It could even be relationships.

They could just sabotage a relationship just because they want attention. They want attention so they pick fights. They kind of do whatever they can to pick a fight to get attention from their spouse or boyfriend, friend, whatever it is you’re trying to get attention from, you create drama so you self-sabotage the relationship. These are examples.

I could go on and on and on but I think you’re getting the point. If you are scared of doing something and you’re sabotaging yourself, when it comes to your dieting, or if you’re sabotaging yourself just for the sake of you deserve this meal, you deserve this cheat day, you deserve this cheat meal or whatever it is.

Whatever it is that you do, don’t keep telling yourself that. I keep telling these things myself like when I didn’t work out for a while and even to this day, I struggle with my workouts and getting it in. My coach, Lee Ann, gets on my ass all the time about it.

Now I’m buckling up to really put it out there, and put 100% into it like I used to in the past. I had to do some deep thinking about it as to what I wanted, what I really wanted out of it, and where I wanted to go. So I had to figure that out, once I did, I am able to put my mind to it and be able to execute a lot easier and feel better about doing it.

Also, I just, if you feel like you are in that rut okay just try and take a step back and look at yourself as someone looking at you from an objective eye because you look at yourself in a negative way as if you’re failing all the time.

Failing Is Comfortable

Sometimes people like to fail. Some people feel like they are failures. They like to feel like a failure, even though it’s kind of a thing that no-one wishes for but people like doing it. It’s just like depression.

Some people like being depressed because it is comfortable for them. They rather feel comfortable being more depressed by getting attention, or having people tell them how great they are or have people tell them they want to be needed and wanted.

You have to dig deep and find what you want, what you truly want, execute it, get out there, go do it. It’s easier said than done but you can only do one thing at a time, and take one step at a time to be able to move forward with it.

Again, I’d be a hypocrite if I did not stress that I go through this stuff myself so I am not perfect. Neither are you. We are all human, so do the best you can everyday. Do something better everyday.

Whatever it is that you do better, make yourself uncomfortable doing it, because that’s the best success you are going to have if you keep doing that everyday, day-in, day-out.

So, till next time, see you guys later.


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